Well, it’s been a heck of a couple of weeks. On March 9th, I got married! Yay! It was a little touch and go for awhile with the weather, but it stopped raining a few minutes before the ceremony, and the sun came out for the reception. It was perfect! My wife (!) and I then traveled to Hawaii for our honeymoon, had a great time there, and then came home and lay around for a few days before we had to return to work.

Yesterday, our last day of our honeymoon, we decided to go to IKEA to start spending some of the wedding money that we had received. We needed a few things, like a bed and matress, so we ended up spending quite a bit of money. What shocks me the most is how easy it has become to spend money.

When you’re planning a wedding, you end up dealing with a lot of cash. Between money that we saved, and money that was given to us for the wedding, we ended up dropping quite a bit of cash on various things. Numbers that used to seem big no longer seem quite so large when you’re spending them on a regular basis. In addition, the last few weeks of wedding planning are rife with purchases. You need a few more napkins, or you found a better tie for the best man (btw, I need that tie back Jeff), and you’re so tired of comparison shopping (or just shopping in general) so you just get it.

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Then the wedding day happens, and suddenly nothing matters anymore. Everything works out, and you spend two weeks in honeymoon mode, where you’re not worried about the bills from the wedding or whether or not you came in on budget, or if you saved up enough money to spend on the honeymoon. You just go, and do, and know that this is the only time in your life where you’ll be able to do this, so you relax, and enjoy not keeping track of money.

But then you come home. Thankfully, I believe my wife and I managed to keep our wedding (and our honeymoon) under budget. We managed to save up enough, plan smart enough, and shop clever enough to fully enjoy our wedding and honeymoon without breaking the bank. Yay us!

The only problem is: we still have the mindset. We’re still in shopping mode. We’re still in the mentality of scouring for deals, and not caring how much things cost – just wanting to get it done. So then it shouldn’t be a huge surprise that when we walk into IKEA with a bunch of wedding money, we walk out with a bunch of stuff.

I think we made good decisions on what to buy. We got a lot of what we needed for the price that we paid, and it should work out perfectly for our needs. Sadly, we’re not done yet, and we still have a bunch of shopping to do. I just don’t like the fact that we’re continually stuck into this “shopping mode”, this mindset of consumerism. I don’t know how or when we’re going to get out.